With Christmas only 2 months away, I have a
confession to make; my kid's have never believed in Santa Clause.
For
Hannah's first 2 Christmas's Santa was a non issue because she was too young to
understand what was going on, but as her third Christmas approached, people
started asking her "What is Santa bringing you?". She had no idea
about Santa, but I knew that if we were going to do the whole Santa thing we
would have introduce it soon.
Growing
up my parents taught us that Santa was a nice story, and fun to pretend, but
that he wasn't real. I never really discussed it with other kids and it was
never an issue. Mum and Dad bought me presents and to a kid the presents are
really more important than who brings them. There was a photo of my sisters and
I with Santa one year, but we knew it was just a guy dressed up, and on
reflection I am not sure why the photo was taken; perhaps my parents felt that
we should have one to be like other kids (just a guess??). None of us feel that we missed out on anything because we didn't believe in Santa.
The
Country Boy did grow up believing in Santa, but remembers feeling devastated
when he discovered his parents 'lied' to him. He kept pretending to believe for
a few more years in order to get more presents. Once he realised he got the
same amount no matter what, the "believing" stopped.
Because
of our different Santa backgrounds, we discussed whether or not we would
introduce Santa and came to the conclusion that we would not.
How we explain Santa to our kids is "Santa is a nice story (based on a true
story) associated with Christmas. He isn't a real man but it can be fun to
pretend he is, in the same way fairies are fun to pretend to be. It's up to
each child's Mum and Dad to decide when to tell them".
For the
first couple of years the lack of Santa was no problem, but as we hit preschool
and school, I wanted Hannah (and Meg) to be aware that some kids do believe in
Santa. Each year in early November we have a little chat about letting parents
decide how and when to tell their kids about Santa. Both kids are really good
at not saying anything when a friend talks about Santa. Hannah knows
that if she is asked what does she hope Santa will bring, to just answer with
what she would like for Christmas. Sometimes she gives me a little secret smile
as if we are in part of a 'grown up' secret.
I have
also let the parents of her close friends know that we don't "do"
Santa, so that should any conversations come up they can help steer them in the
right direction.
Not
believing in Santa hasn't in anyway diminished how much we all love Christmas.
We love to celebrate Christmas as Jesus' birthday. We go to carol concerts and
drive around looking at Christmas lights. We decorate our house and have a
Christmas tree. We still give our kids presents. The kids still have problems
getting to sleep and then get up way too early to look at their presents. We
sing Christmas songs about Santa and even have Santa decorations on the tree.
After all he is a fun part of Christmas, he is just not THE reason for
Christmas.
"There's
only one fat guy who eats the cookies and drinks the milk; and he ain't
Santa"
- Bart Simpson
Do your
kids believe in Santa? How have you handled some of the more curly questions
about him?
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